After reading this article, you will do something better and you will definitely marry someone you love and someone you are compatible with.
First things first! Whether you call it boyfriend, a girlfriend, fiance, or other, you should accept the fact that you are in a serious relationship that caused you to invest your love, time and effort.
In fact, a person who missed a marriage opportunity already knows what exactly caused the failure. So at least, there must be one clear reason that person knows. And the interesting part is that not all people are aware of what caused the miss of their last marriage opportunity.
So now, let’s consider you are that person and you may have tried again and again having one reason in mind or maybe you are confused what caused you to miss your past marriage opportunities and finally, you have become to the conclusion that no lack to discover for you, but you are still trying with the hope of getting one.
Ok now, while you are reading this article, you are expecting something better to start working on before you get yourself deeper in your relationship. So let’s say that you are awake for a while and discovering something.
These are the reasons that caused you to miss your past marriage opportunities.
We are now going to discover some reasons that everyone is struggling to win or skip while making love and leading their relationship to marriage. Some of these reasons may require an immediate action to fix, also some are related to each other, but relatively some of them are just good to be a reason as they are very natural to have and helps us to examine our relationship and to decide later before getting deep into it. So when you read these 7 reasons, take only what’s good for your relationship.
1. Lack of Goal in Your life
Imagine, while your friend or fiance is striving to make life better using any good opportunity that is available like it could be by education or by having multiple jobs, but you are still sleeping in your own mind and have no goal in life. So you are always angry, crying, feeling hopless, barking like a dog, but your reasons are NOT even true or maybe you are just weak to do something because you want a comfortable lifestyle out of nothing.
So do you think or expect your friend or fiance would love that?
So why don’t you have a goal in your life and show up in a good mood? Does it hurt to keep the feeling of your friend or fiance from disturbance? Why don’t you do or even try something and make your friend or fiance feel that you have a goal in your life?
When you do that, no matter what, whether you are succeded or not, your friend or fiance will love it and even become interested to help you acheieve your goal. So that leads to marriage.
So have a goal in your own life!
2. Lack of self-care
You may have a good goal in your own life, or maybe you have no goal at all and you are acting like you don’t even have enough time to take a shower and wear clean clothes. Or maybe you are a drug addict and acting weird all the time. That means you are NOT taking care of yourself but preparing for marriage.
Please don’t do that! because you are not going to save your relationship while keeping good stuff away. Don’t forget that we are all humans and unless we have some kind of mental problem at any level and type, no one will hate to be clean and act on self-caring.
In one way of thinking, life is all about caring. So your friend or fiance is always looking for a better person who cares for himself/herself, NOT the one who spend his/her time with damaging stuff. Because self-caring is one of the pre-marriage things that guarantee the stablity of the future relationship.
So take care of yourself!
3. Unstable Financial Situation
This could be the exact reason for most of Earthians. But not all of them are struggling with it. Indeed it is one of the main issues for marriage failures even before or after the marriage.
This can be different from people to people, and even place to place. For some people who are living in difficult places like Africa, it is impossible to live a comfortable life by just having one job. For other people, who are living in luxuries places, it is easy to have a good life just by having one job, but it is difficult to have or experience luxuries lifestyles unless they add some income source on their current income. So unstable financial issue covers all the people based on their level of lifestyle.
So while you are in a friend or fiance zone, think about it. Make sure to have a stable financial situation before showing up your self in front of your future marriage partner. In case your partner knows your situation, try to have a discussion with your future marriage partner about the current financial situations as this helps you to minimize the risk of future relationship problems.
Also make sure if your partner is interested to accept things as it is or to find a solution together, or even it is good to know if she/he has no interest to continue in the relationship if this problem exists in the future.
So before marrying someone, try to stabilizing your financial situation. Do multiple jobs as much as you can, it won’t hurt you. Have multiple income.
4. Family Issue
In some countries, a family will decide for marriage. In other modern countries, not all families decide for their family members.
So while it is good to get guidance from your family about relationship and marriage, who is going to decide about your future marriage-life?
It must be you! Don’t let them ruin it, because they don’t like your friend’s or fiance’s teeth.
Another issue is that to avoid bad family issues appearing from the sight of your future marriage partner or in case if it is known, try to fix the family problem as soon as possible in front of your future marriage partner, so she/he will build trust in you. Because no one is interested to get insulted by spouse’s family member.
So examine your family issue now! NOT even tomorrow!
NOT all friendships and fianceships are good to go. Your current partner may not be the right future partner, so watch out for ages and other comparsion issues.
I don’t want to focus on this reason as it is different from place to place, so I will leave it for you to do according to your own lifestyle. So either you will make it compatible by force or you will get into serious trouble in your future marriage.
So revise and start working on your compatiblity!
6. You are looking for a specific thing
Well if you are loolking for a marriage partner, stop looking for money, assets, ass, abs, hair, car, job opportunity, or anything that is againist the principle of marriage.
Instead, take all of them in a very professional way or as a package. Get yourself ready to invest at least one of them in your future marriage relationship. Don’t just expect from your future partner.
If you specifically select one reason to marry someone, and after the marriage, when you lose that thing, you will get into trouble and even cause you to lose your marriage at the same time.
So stop looking for specific thing!
7. You hate to have a baby
I know this seems to be going like spiritual or even religious stuff. But I do think like that. If you don’t like babies, and you want your marriage just to have a sexual relationship with your partner until the end of your life, you are selfish and that’s one of the life disorders you are experiencing.
Stop and start thinking properly. You came from your mother and father, right? So in case if your mother and father have the same attitude like you are having right now, you coudn’t even see this article.
So get yourself ready for babies! And let your partner know that! And if your partner doesn’t want to have a baby, try to fix their mind otherwise, let them go!
CONCLUSION: Love is blind but not always as you are not blind
Yes, it is! but one day, like you are seeing things by your own eyes, LOVE will wake up and punches the inner part of your marriage partner’s head to let her/him start thinking about the current lifestyle. And plenty of problems will be revised and become big issues.
What are you going to do?
While in a marriage relationship, when you couples found some kind of problem, either you will have to figure out by yourself using plenty of techniques or there is nothing you can do about it and you goes to divorce which is a forbidden act in front of your creator.
So before marying someone, start working on those reasons as a pre-mission assignment, and when you complete your pre-mission assignment, you are good to go.
Happy Marriage! I wish you to have the best marriage partner in the future.
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